Greetings of Peace and every Blessing again, dearest friends…!
Here’s hoping you still remember the song composition of my sons I featured in our article entitled, OF POETRY AND MUSIC. Our intro for this issue is begun with the narration – my son, the lyricist of that song, aptly calls “fill-in” lines – situated somewhere in the middle of the song they titled, BURNING CANDLES.
It is out of my pride and joy that I tell you the truth: that this same son of mine has grown spiritually way ahead of me. Although every time I tell him that, he would shy away and negate my personal observation. Well, it must be because I kind of overtook him (his job happens to be quite demanding of him more than mine) since God gave me so much spare time to personally study what matters to Him most. Besides, my son needs to enjoy life while he is still young. And he needs to experience balance as early as possible. I had my time of fun and, sad to say, folly already. About time I learned and give back what has been given me. His own time of giving back will come, in God’s perfect time.
If I have to state one particular admirable trait in people I really look up to, it is TRUST. And when I say that word, I refer to the truest sense of the word “trust”. In the almost half decade that I have been with people I have observed time and again how the word has been uttered lightly and without meaning. It is once again human nature for us to say one thing and to do another. This is borne out of confusion.
For people who honestly trust though, whenever they say, expect that they really mean it. Why? They mean it because it comes from their heart. Which means that people who mean what they say, say things out of the purity of their heart. These are the few fortunate people who truly know how to love because they know what really love is.
In the last issue I mentioned about Erik H. Erikson’s stages of life. For purposes, maybe, of helping you find the answer to your own life puzzle, I am reprinting it as follows:
For those of you who know about this theory pretty well, you might have noticed that I made necessary changes to it, mostly addenda, as we have to adjust and go with the signs of the times. Take special attention at the last item under the negative trait developed and learn from it: WE CANNOT AFFORD TO STAGNATE! Or we will pay dearly.
In my adolescent life, when I was in the so-called “boy-girl” relationships, I remembered of a certain boyfriend who frequently discouraged me into trusting people too much. You see, I was, still am and intends to be, sincerely trusting and truly honest (sometimes to a fault). Yes, I realized already that these are the reasons I was taken-for-granted, taken-for-a ride, used, misused, abused, at kung anu-ano pa. Magkagano’n pa man, wala pa rin akong pinagsisisihan. At 'di ko po kinakailangang baguhin ang pagmamahal ko sa pamamaraang alam ko at nakasanayan ko, no matter what happened to me in the past. In fact, I am so resolved about the path God gave me to thread on that I am willing to walk on it again IF IT IS THE ONLY WAY TO FIND HIM.
Looking at that Life Stages theory, I found out why I was a very trusting person and I THANK AND PRAISE GOD TO NO END for giving me to the family that I grew up into. He really has reasons and purposes for everything. And then I looked at it again to find out when and where exactly life for me became wrong or unstable. I knew it was around my tenth birthday, so I had to rethink what major occurrences could have caused my deepest cuts that were enough to unmake me. And…Oh, Lord…they were really BIG ONES!
After the realization, as always, we are left to take either of only two (2) final choices: expansion or stagnation. And so it is, friends, as far as I am concerned…and it will continue to be for as long as I live.
The coolest change we can do to help improve our self, and be able to help in what we often dream of, that is “world peace” (kahit na matagal pa, honestly, ‘yan mangyari, kung mangyayari man), is to decide to expand – our knowledge, but most importantly our heart. Or we will just be “packing on relationships we know is only a PIECE OF SHIT” (Jason Mraz: WHO NEEDS SHELTER).
Begin to really love by trusting because love can never survive without it. Isn’t it a shame people always say, God is love, and they don’t even know what love is, simply because they don’t know how to trust? Yeah, I know, the most of us were broken from the very onset of our life that is the basis for our mistrust. But let me ask you, are you sure you are headed for somewhere good if you continue living your life in that choice? Think and feel yourself. Assess yourself carefully if your destination is somewhere or nowhere ba talaga. O, baka naman kahit na ang destination mo, e, di mo pa alam hanggang ngayon, kaibigan?
Big, big kisses for all of you…! God bless…!
