The Intricate Loop of A Relationship

Wrote this on the 13th of the Happy Hearts' Day (popularly known Valentine's Day) due the next day. And yup, my timing is intentional, kasi nga nauuso ang pangungutya sa mga desperadang kabitenya raw. Sa ganang akin, gusto ko palagi silang bigyan ng decency because they remain to be human beings na naliligaw lang ng landas. "There is no sin big enough not to be forgiven." 

i was merely eight (8) years old then, but i already knew how to appreciate physical appearances in those times when it was not yet as rampant as now. i do not exactly know why, but i felt like i was ahead, so much ahead, of everybody else's time back then like, i knew i had someone out there regardless how he looks. Going back now, i greatly think i was only romanticizing the idea because the truth has always been with me - that my focus of study will be regarding relationships, friendships included, of course. 

Every kind of broken relationship every time brings me pain for everyone involved. For a time, especially during the early part of my marriage break up, my first thought was that it has something to do with my woundedness and disappointment of a shattered dream. Now it is very clear to me that it has got nothing to do with any of that. Sharing with you the clarity of my understanding as an effect of my reading last December 2023. 

To quote:

    KARMIC RELATIONSHIPS Versus HIGHER-LOVING RELATIONSHIPS

    "Have you ever dated someone and thought they were the ONE but in the end, it didn't work out?

     You would be surprised to know how many people confuse karmic relationships with finding the             ONE, their twin-flame or soulmate (as Love is a soul thing). This happened to me more than once         and it was heart breaking (every time) to say the least.

     It all starts with this strong and passionate attraction between two (2) people.

     They fall madly in love, and everything seems to be out of the ordinary. But after a while, things start      to go south, an avalanche of pain and drama engulfs the relationship and what once seemed like a         fairytale has turned into a nightmare.

     Karmic Relationships

     Everyone has a certain frequency (the vibratory oscillation rate of the atomic and sub-atomic                 particles in your field) which ranges between 50 - 150 Ghz. Frequency is extremely important                 because of the Law of Resonance which states that: depending on the frequency you have, you will        resonate with people, places, times, things, and events that have similar (if not identical) frequency.

     Two (2) people do not get together and stay together unless they have the same or very similar                 frequency. 

     Karmic relationships are relationships in which the frequency of karmic imprints become the                 determining factor that attracts two (2) people and later create the dysfunctional relationship                 dynamics that later sabotage the relationship."

Written by a male writer, i suppose, this totally got me as my interest lies heavily on the logical side of my brain, to balance out the heaviness of my right side that brought me so much pain as i went through all those "hell".

The writer's explanation of the intricacy of the karmic loop in relationships does not however, end there. i intentionally made this pause for a little while to make sure that the general idea of break ups is basically about the choice of energy which is the main factor that is involved in the creation of a frequency.  

For quite some time now, the main drive of advocacy has been about raising our frequency through our vibrational modality which primarily involves our energy choice. But it has unfortunately not gotten that much of our people's attention, especially in this part of the planet, because the seeming focus of attention is how to get rich, popular, and/or powerful. Most prayers consist of those. Trust me.

To continue:

     There are numerous factors that determine your relationship frequency, but one of the most                     influential factors are karmic imprints and the emotional pain body. If you look closely, you'll realize      that people who are in a relationship usually are playing opposite sides of the karmic imprint                 spectrum.

     Polarity-based Attraction

     Let's say that you have karmic imprints of not being worthy of love. Based on the frequency of this         karmic imprint, you will most likely attract a person who subconsciously believes s/he is incapable         of giving love or opening his/her heart chakra a.k.a. energy center.

Both the karmic relationship and polarity-based attraction are merely temporary attraction based merely on feelings at and of the moment which are not definite by nature. Wala dapat ikinababahala tungkol dito lalo na't pabagu-bago naman ang emosyon. Why does it bring so much chaos to people concerned, especially in a triangular set up?  

"Evil is whatever distracts." - Franz Kafka

Marriage happens when two (2) people agree to do so, for varying reasons. They make a vow to stay true, or maybe not, but regardless they try their best to stay together in sickness (including mental and emotional, not only physical) and in health, which is the ideal. 

For a certain period of time everything seemed alright. Until one uneventful day when a distraction must come in between them to stir their otherwise calm situation, which actually was just a test to see how they cope, but they were challenged big by: will they give in and break away or choose to stay? Dito na nagkakaiba ang desisyon ng bawat-isa sa isang mag-asawa. We cannot control how people think. We can only control our own self. 

If one is distracted by someone whose main agendum probably is to destruct the marriage vows of a couple, then walang magagawa ang isang maiiiwan dahil hindi naman n'ya hawak ang pag-iisip ng umalis na asawa. Ang tanging maiiwan sa kanya ay ang gawin ang nararapat n'yang gawin na naaayon sa moralidad o tamang kaisipan ng isang matinong tao. 

"Evil is whatever distracts." Huwag na huwag kang sumama sa pagtalon nila sa kung saan man nila gustong mahulog o pumunta. Create your own path no matter how hard. You have loved ones who are looking up to you for inspiration. Never fail them. For what is love without sacrifice. 

In this New Age, so they say, i still maintain my otherwise conventional thinking. i am happy to continue to be. Why so? i have tried as much as i could to learn, re-learn and muster (believe you me, ang daaami-dami ko na ring in-unlearn!) important things not just to carry me through but most importantly to raise my vibration and up my frequency. 

True love is found deep within each of us. Sa istoryang mag-asawa at kabitenya, balikan natin 'yong sabi nila na: "hurt people hurt." Kung tanggap mong isa ka sa kanila, well then, magpagaling ka. GOD IS THE GREATEST PHYSICIAN. "An gugma naton san Ginoo, tinikangan san kinaadman..." goes a line in one of our Church songs. Nobody is devoid of intelligence. Lahat matalino. Ang nakakabobo ay ang mga hindi kaayaayang emosyon dala karamihan ng mga sugat ng nakaraan at ang mga mala-higanteng mga pangarap na ewan lang kung para saan. "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth..." Matthew 6:19

"A person is capable to love only as much as s/he loves him/herself." 

MABUHAY KA, KAIBIGAN. 

FOR EVERY PAINFUL ENDING, A BEAUTIFUL BEGINNING

Nawindang ang sambayanan, bata, tin-edyer, o matanda, sa pasabog ng Philippine Cinema-landia tungkol sa paghihiwalay ng labing-isang taong pagsasamahan ng Kathniel loveteam. It happened exactly three (3) days ago, because the announcement was allegedly planned to coincide with the celebration of Andres Bonifacio Day to make sure/seal the probability of the third party (Andrea, female version, the supposed culprit in the breakup) to be outrightly known, exposed, and thereby allow for them (Andrea's camp) no room for any move to deny the accusation. Everything is a craft, a business move, which must be taken advantaged of. 

Others, especially the politically-oriented and patriotically-inclined ones were disappointed why give so much importance to such "nonsense" when eto nga't lugmok na lugmok tayo at naghihikahos ang buong bayan dahil sa korapsyon ng liderato at kaitaas-taasang pamahalaan ng bayan. Bakiiit?

i am thus, taking advantage, also, of this momentous (or mishap?) event for an enlightenment and once again introduce important things as regards human facts and dynamics. Matagal ko rin munang pinagnilayan muna, lalo na ang pagsusuri sa aking sarili as i needed to make sure that i was coming from a good place, bago sulatin ang nilalaman ng loob ko. It is very difficult for a moralist to live in the midst of a chaotic world dominated by both immorality and amorality to jump into conclusions, lalo't unang-una mong isinaaalang-alang ang kapakanan ng mambabasa mo or to whoever you share your thoughts with. When you are committed to your life mission, you must likewise be completely accountable and reliable at all times.

i express my absolute admiration for Kathryn Bernardo's statement. To me, that was a perfect example of the first book ever i read, from cover to cover, after my marriage break up, entitled EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE by Daniel Goleman. So sweet and so mature a statement that was really, i must admit, for a very young lass of twenty seven (27) only and who just had one boyfriend experience at that. From her we realized maturity is not necessarily equated with age, nor maybe of experience. Pero ano nga bang malay natin sa mga sakripisyo at sakit na pinangdaanan n'ya in that eleven (11) years?

For the past year, female prominence has been started to take center stage. The problem that blocked for it to take over as fast was primarily the misconception of its context, as we are a very gender oriented society. This fact is even made more difficult by the seemingly closed or narrow-mindedness of our people for the introduction of new and more enlightening facts for human development/ascension. 

Female prominence actually means, the use of every individual's right brain (responsible for relationship/s) regardless his/her gender. It is said to be our return to our original practice as people when this world was first created. For so long a time, when the male prominence, or also called left brain dominance, has overtaken this world all it resulted to was nothing but moral degeneration and decay. 

The first to be contaminated, of course, by this phenomenon was the male specie who is generally left-brained. As for the right-brained female specie, they became mostly target of exploitation in effect of the brain imbalance. 

Maturity calls for an ending of a blame game. It is the beginning of awakening. When one is awakened, s/he chooses to understand and heal no matter how difficult the process might entail. S/he chooses to be whole; aim for completion; and find the balance of both of his/her yin and yang or masculine and feminine to find his/her true self once again. 

The third (fourth, fifth, etc., etc. kahit na pang-ilan pa 'yan) party is another story, but of the same origination. i studied Psychology to understand my aversions, because as i have said, i found difficulty in living this crazy world, that i was diagnosed to suffer from a psychosomatic ailment at the age of seventeen (17) years old, after many years of extreme loneliness and pain. True enough, "Life is difficult." so said M. Scott Peck in his first trilogy book of THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED. 

But, i must say, and this is very important: i was able to completely eradicate my aversions for people, and learned to love unconditionally, by finding God who is also in me (i would learn later). God is the greatest physician of all, i have said that time and again. God is who gives everyone of us the needed balance. As a Catholic, i am consistent in my belief that when Jesus said, "I will be in each one of you.", He made true of that promise and thus, He stayed in our heart. 

During those times that i was lost, (because i was ghosted by my best friend, my first male friend who my soul probably recognized during our first meeting that was why i felt something strange for him), my left brain (responsible for logical thinking) told me to get even, with boys! Revenge to avenge. i lost the best part of me for so long. If there was something that saved me (i did not go all out even for once!), it was that small voice inside of me which now i came to know as a "divine spark" inside us. Ito 'yong kasa-kasama natin para hindi tayo tuluyang bumigay, mapariwara, at maligaw sa tamang landas ng buhay. 

When finally my twenty three (23) year-marriage failed, i went back to reading books to find answers to my questions, which later led me to a decision that it was the culmination of all the painful years na pinagdaanan ko. Kinailangan kong balikan ang mga nakaraan ko para mapatawad ko sa puso ko ang mga tao doon, lalong-lalo na ang sarili ko. 

Each one has his/her own unique path. The one thing i am certain about, after all that i have been through, is that we are triggered by the one we love the most para mahanap muli ang totoong tayo.  Real Love does not necessarily need physical connection, because it is a soul thing. Nobody has the power to dissolve it. It is a big part of God's plan. And neither time and space exist in a soul connection because "a spiritual bond is unbreakable." - Dolores Cannon

Hanggang sa muli, mahal kong kaibigan. Nawa'y palaging nasa mabuti ka. Iiyak mo lang 'yan kung kailangan. Bukas okey ka na naman. Pramis.😘💕