THE THING
IS…
Seems to me
like we have been surrounded, for many millennia and still continue to be, by
people who have been very used to thinking for themselves alone and acting
according to the desires of their flesh with complete disregard for the people
they call family – the basic unit in our society that one is supposed to first love
and protect. Ilang katao na ba ang umiwan sa kanilang sari-sariling pamilya upang
magsilbi ng pamilyang hindi sa kanila? People are so emotionally distressed
they often get confused and muddle their supposed priorities according to
morality.
Man, being
his/her own basic, forgot his/her very essence as a human being endowed with a
God-soul. The good news is, as we go through time, little by little the clarity
has begun that “the conflict is not between good and evil, but between
knowledge and ignorance.” The importance of knowing that we are made for
balance is the main purpose of real living, because as spirits we are here for
experience – as it is through experience where we learn the value of discernment.
So that
then, we are repeatedly told that true love primarily involves acceptance of
the person and situation. The lack or total disregard for proper discernment,
usually effectively done by solitude, has made us inhuman thereby affecting the
closest people to the family we supposed to belong to. Hindi natin sila
mabigyang halaga sa kadahilanang ayaw din nating bigyang halaga ang sarili
natin. We usually are completely oblivious to our own thoughts. Bakit? Kasi nga
sobrang mahirap ang mag-isip. It is super duper easy to judge instead. And then
we justify our judgments as if the guilt will dissipate right after
justification. No, po. It remains until we pay them in full. Unknowingly, it is
in our being judgmental, sometimes condemning even, that we pay the price. “Only
the grace of God is free.”
The law of
karma is perfectly applicable to judgmental people. But when one strives hard
to understand the dynamics of our humanness, once a karma hits to others who
once hurt him/her, s/he does at all rejoice in the unfortunate event because
s/he understands that “karma is not a system of punishment. It is a system of
learning." -Dolores Cannon
This is
where hope begins. But…
Learning, however,
can prove to be very difficult for bitter and miserable people. This is the
basis for the unending call and inspiration to seek/find healing, and life
meaning. The inability to find healing gets people stuck, and woe to some
others who choose to end their own life.
Unhealed wounds
of the past are the greatest procrastinator to finding balance – the only way
to find Heaven on Earth. The present day’s complaints of school teachers
regarding problematic students actually begun a long time ago in each students’
life in their very own family. No one is exempt. This problem is rooted since
Adam and Eve.
Emancipation
from this can only be possible through family therapy. I absolutely believe in
this because I once participated in a session led by a Registered Social Worker
in a government office I was a part of. I volunteered because I wanted to see
for myself how it is done. I was only supposed to observe, until I sensed the
lack in the approach. I butted in after permission, of course. Kinailangan ko
lang ipaalala sa kanila ang importansya ng pagpapatawad.
Forgiveness is
the most part to realize and implement for all of the members in the family,
regardless the age and status, when handling situations such as this. It must
be the centrifugal force of the session because the goal is to cure. Kaya nga
family therapy, e. “Every good and bad thing/s begins in the family.” Huwag kang
humanap ng excuse/s, bagkus ay tanggapin mo ang katotohanang ito at mariing
suriin ang sarili mo.
Ego drive
ang nagpatakbo sa bawat-isa sa atin. We were ruined by it, and sadly continue
to be. To tame the ego requires only conscious awareness of the self, again,
beginning from our thoughts to how we speak and act or behave. Consistency must
be applied though. Magkamali man, kasi hindi naman magic ang pagbabago, ay kinakailangan
lang patawarin ang sarili at humingi ng paumanhin kaagad-agad sa tao o mga
taong na-offend. Those who have difficulty asking for forgiveness are usually
people who have been used to entitlement since they were young. They developed
the habit as they grew up, to their own detriment.
Hanggang dito
na lamang po muna. Hanggang sa susunod na lamang po nating pag-uusap. We have
to thread and understand life a step at a time. Patuloy lang tayong
magkahawak-kamay sa ating paglalakbay. We will make it! 😉