THE THING IS…

Seems to me like we have been surrounded, for many millennia and still continue to be, by people who have been very used to thinking for themselves alone and acting according to the desires of their flesh with complete disregard for the people they call family – the basic unit in our society that one is supposed to first love and protect. Ilang katao na ba ang umiwan sa kanilang sari-sariling pamilya upang magsilbi ng pamilyang hindi sa kanila? People are so emotionally distressed they often get confused and muddle their supposed priorities according to morality.

Man, being his/her own basic, forgot his/her very essence as a human being endowed with a God-soul. The good news is, as we go through time, little by little the clarity has begun that “the conflict is not between good and evil, but between knowledge and ignorance.” The importance of knowing that we are made for balance is the main purpose of real living, because as spirits we are here for experience – as it is through experience where we learn the value of discernment.

So that then, we are repeatedly told that true love primarily involves acceptance of the person and situation. The lack or total disregard for proper discernment, usually effectively done by solitude, has made us inhuman thereby affecting the closest people to the family we supposed to belong to. Hindi natin sila mabigyang halaga sa kadahilanang ayaw din nating bigyang halaga ang sarili natin. We usually are completely oblivious to our own thoughts. Bakit? Kasi nga sobrang mahirap ang mag-isip. It is super duper easy to judge instead. And then we justify our judgments as if the guilt will dissipate right after justification. No, po. It remains until we pay them in full. Unknowingly, it is in our being judgmental, sometimes condemning even, that we pay the price. “Only the grace of God is free.”

The law of karma is perfectly applicable to judgmental people. But when one strives hard to understand the dynamics of our humanness, once a karma hits to others who once hurt him/her, s/he does at all rejoice in the unfortunate event because s/he understands that “karma is not a system of punishment. It is a system of learning." -Dolores Cannon

This is where hope begins. But…

Learning, however, can prove to be very difficult for bitter and miserable people. This is the basis for the unending call and inspiration to seek/find healing, and life meaning. The inability to find healing gets people stuck, and woe to some others who choose to end their own life.

Unhealed wounds of the past are the greatest procrastinator to finding balance – the only way to find Heaven on Earth. The present day’s complaints of school teachers regarding problematic students actually begun a long time ago in each students’ life in their very own family. No one is exempt. This problem is rooted since Adam and Eve.

Emancipation from this can only be possible through family therapy. I absolutely believe in this because I once participated in a session led by a Registered Social Worker in a government office I was a part of. I volunteered because I wanted to see for myself how it is done. I was only supposed to observe, until I sensed the lack in the approach. I butted in after permission, of course. Kinailangan ko lang ipaalala sa kanila ang importansya ng pagpapatawad.

Forgiveness is the most part to realize and implement for all of the members in the family, regardless the age and status, when handling situations such as this. It must be the centrifugal force of the session because the goal is to cure. Kaya nga family therapy, e. “Every good and bad thing/s begins in the family.” Huwag kang humanap ng excuse/s, bagkus ay tanggapin mo ang katotohanang ito at mariing suriin ang sarili mo.

Ego drive ang nagpatakbo sa bawat-isa sa atin. We were ruined by it, and sadly continue to be. To tame the ego requires only conscious awareness of the self, again, beginning from our thoughts to how we speak and act or behave. Consistency must be applied though. Magkamali man, kasi hindi naman magic ang pagbabago, ay kinakailangan lang patawarin ang sarili at humingi ng paumanhin kaagad-agad sa tao o mga taong na-offend. Those who have difficulty asking for forgiveness are usually people who have been used to entitlement since they were young. They developed the habit as they grew up, to their own detriment.

Hanggang dito na lamang po muna. Hanggang sa susunod na lamang po nating pag-uusap. We have to thread and understand life a step at a time. Patuloy lang tayong magkahawak-kamay sa ating paglalakbay. We will make it! 😉