Today's
topic i would have written for the preceding issue, right after the launching
of 1 Billion Rising activity in Manila, spearheaded by the known stage actress
Monique Wilson. Boy Abunda attended the said event upon personal invitation of
Eve Ensler - activity originator and writer of the famous "Vagina
Monologues". These known people are but few of those who intensely and
extensively work for advocacy to end abuse or any violence against women and to
hopefully empower them.
On behalf
of all the victimized women, i am grateful for these above mentioned
personalities for standing up for them and providing strength and courage where
both (courage and strength) left them. The different backgrounds each of them
have do not matter that much. What binds them together is the common purpose -
raise the dignity of women - because even if the Philippines is already
fortunate, in as far as the bill of rights for women, among the developing
countries, abuses continue to predominate. As I said before, what is seen on
official records is but the tip of an iceberg. Most women suffer in silence.
And they are them whom i cry and pray for the most. I am not talking about
their respective children yet.
When i
was connected in one of the local NGO's, and assigned specifically in a women's
desk/section, i was sent for trainings/seminars and got to learn many things
regarding the plight of women. But it is one thing to be comforted (na
hindi pala ako nag-iisa) and another thing to decide - whether or not to
follow the flow. Orphaned at three months old, i spent my lonely childhood in a
broken adoptive family, that having been such, i coined a personal principle
not to let my children suffer the same pain i suffered. So, i stayed in a
marriage that was very, very difficult!
Yesterday
while i was on my way home, i met and talked for a while with a young friend
who told me about the agony she experienced when she found out about the
womanizing of her husband. Because we had very limited time to talk about the
details of it and the considering explanations why such and such happen, the
least i could do was asked her if her husband is a good provider. When she
answered in the affirmative, i told her to thank God for giving you a husband
like that. And don't give up praying for his conversion, as nobody can change
an evil for an evil. The call for us is "Love revolution".
Very
sadly i wrote this while in my mind was running a thought: kon pareho la
kunta kan papa (the father who i came to know) an mga babayero nga
asawa, medyo magaan gad unta an problema san mga asawa. My father was a
very good provider for us. That is how i remember him to be, apart from his
ultra temperance. We, his children, left us with the fondest memory of him with
his best character despite his relentless womanizing, that ultimately brought
him down. Mao man gud iton an kinabuhi, diri mo ngani tuhayon an dapat mo
tuhayon sa imo kalugaringon, mabalik ngatanan sa imo iton. Kaparte iton san
sinisiring nga mga universal laws - an mga balaud nga diri ug diri gud
nababag-o, sadto ug tubtub san tubtuban san kalibutan. But the children
must always forgive, lest they will suffer the same fate or consequence/s and
worse, kay an pagdumot ug kasina permanente nga sa karat-an kit gindadara.
Women, if
you are in the same situation (of being married to a womanizer), do likewise.
STAY and do something about your own self. His problem is his, not yours. Mayda
ka kalugaringon nga krus nga imo ginpapas-an. By making his womanizing your
problem, you are adding the weight of your own cross. Concentrate on your own
wellness. HOWEVER, if you are experiencing more forms of battering as add on to
your husband's womanizing, then do something radical about your situation. The
children will experience the anxiety and bitterness of your decision, but all
of those will be temporary. All those are effects of their (your children)
sentimentality because they have not yet seen the world as it is. When they
finally decide to wake up and understand, they will move on with their own
lives and learn the lessons they got from both of you, their parents.
Eventually they will be grateful you showed them courage and strength.
The
celebration of women's month will be this coming March. The 1 Billion Rising
had been decided to launch last February 14. Chances are, it must be in time
for the celebration of the Hearts' Day, maybe because tungod iton san
siring nga linya: ang babae minamahal, hindi sinasaktan. Sanglit, babaye, ayaw
na tuguti nga padayon ka na la nga susugaron. Buhat ug salbara an imo
kalugaringon! Celebrate your goodness as a woman of God everyday!
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