Being part of an organization leaves us pretty much with either little or no choice at all. When, in the middle of our lunch break conversation in our office's division, our head of office came in and heard our topic she gamely joined us just like a mother would, especially when relationship of her "children" is what is at stake. As i consider everyone in my office also my family, i make sure spending time with them and obeying orders from my superiors in relation to what is expected of me and what i am there for.
The topic of that moment was about the indifference of one of our "sisters" or co-workers, which really just started with our objective implementation assessment of her supposed livelihood project and what could have probably went wrong why it became a failure. Life is a mystery, but for some weeks now i had been sincerely asking God to give me the grace to forgive and only show mercy to this particular co-worker as i perfectly understand where she must be coming from. As it has always been to me though, when i want so hard to forgive it always does not come easy. Temptations of hatred out of an untold anger most often prevailed. So i always need to install the kind of anger management that effectively works for me - loving from a distance. It is one of my many manifestations of a tough love. It is when i treat a person as if s/he does not exist.! Every time i impose that measure however, i say to myself: forgive me, Father!
I am a sanguine-choleric. Being so, halaba gud uraura an akon pasensya labi na kay gintagan ak grasya sin pagsabot san akon igkasitawo. A sanguine personality is a forever-child who is spontaneous, sweet, and loving. But because my secondary personality is choleric i find difficulty in forgiving a person who constantly tests my patience by his/her crossing my boundaries every so often ug pag-umabot na ak san akon tubtuban ngan diri nareresolba an mga butang nga ginpaabat sa akon, makuri na gud ak maulian because i do not allow myself to be sweetly manipulated. I had been there so long, i sense people's motives right away.
The subject that i am referring to in this article is a choleric-phlegmatic who has not yet checked her very self. As i have said before, choleric personalities are the most difficult to deal with. Dida ngani ada nagtikang an aton pamuyayaw nga "kolera!" ambot la. But going back, i am seriously offering you my unsolicited advise to follow the Greek philosophy: KNOW THYSELF. It is the ignorance of our very own self that we go wayward, lose the right track and hurt other people including our own self first. Maski nano pa niyo nga pagsinimba ug paglinuhod dida. Pwera la gaba because i have nothing against what you prefer doing kay to each his/her own man an kinabuhi.
Rather than look at, scrutinize, and blame others for every bad feeling you are having simply because your life is not going where you want it to, kitaa anay an iyo kalugaringon! And please, don't label people. Remember that for every label that you attach unto them, you are disclosing what you actually are. Again, as i said before na naman: we are given away not only by what we do, but also by what we say. Ngatanan nabalik gud sa aton! Sanglit paminsar gud anay pirmi sin maupay basi diri ka makaligis kay kairo mo kon balikan ka.
And GROW UP! Life is a choice and love is a decision. Kasumo pa siton. Kadamo na uraura san nahibatian ko nga mga dati ug mga padati-dati nga nagyiyinakan siton. Sige la sira yakan, diri man nakikita sa ira kiwa. Pag diri maupay an pamati kay waray mapatungyui san ira karuyag, madalagan kon kanay kay mapaugop. Josko, kapagal!!! They remained little children nga nagkadagko la an ihap san edad pero nagpabilin nga lumatod an panhunahuna. Unless a decision is made to finally grow up and face every problem in the eye, these people will never find love. They will just remain pathetic.
When, by God's grace, you finally decide to grow up the very first thing you do is LEARN TO LISTEN. Brats are typically people who always just "want to be heard but will never listen". Although they will pretend they are listening they will not hear anything because they are very noisy inside. That is why when they feel like they are so pushed against the wall they also made up, their only option is run away. Hala, sige dalagan, dalagan gud! Kasabot nira nga an ira kontra iba nga tawo. They got so used to the pattern they created since they were little children. Because they thought it worked then, they continued to think it will work until now. Sanglit maski dapat ada na sira san sinisiring nga adult category they are observed to be little boys and little girls.
Ug take note, may bonus pa iton. They also like to compete, so they are disrespectful. Kay nano? KSP man sira. At bakit sila kulang sa pansin? Kasi nga po napakatagal na panahon nang di nila pinapansin ang sarili nila! Why is that so? Because they were kept busy, much too busy, in getting the attention of others. Phlegmatic personality are very nice to other people. They go to the extent of pleasing them for what ever personal reason or motive only they know. What they attend to mostly is their outer image. They forget that what is inside is what is most important.
Back to our lunch break conversation with my office mates and our head of office, to cut the long story short, i had to go by the decision of the group to hold a meeting specific for the purpose because WE ARE A FAMILY after all. Ngan kaupod man ini san akon paghingyap ug paglaum sin kahimyang.
Ciao, my friends. Hasta la Vista! 
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