THAT'S THE WAY IT IS

         "I can read your mind and i know your story

          I see what you're going through, yeah.

          It's an uphill climb and i'm feeling sorry

          but i know it will come to you, yeah

          Don't surrender 'cause you can win

          in this thing called LOVE.

Remembering clearly these as they are etched in my heart beginning the day i hit rock bottom and on my way to my recovery. The thing is, most of those who cannot keep themselves intact when they are broken is that they are so attached with whatever, wherever, or whomever they associate with that idea of feeling in love. Trust me, I was there then, that's why i know.

It was a very, very difficult phase for me because sabi nga ni Kim Chiu, nagmahal lang naman ako. And because "when you hit rock bottom you have nowhere to go but up" i went back to reading the Holy Bible again, partly because i wanted to find sana a kakampi naman (dahil mostly lumaki ako tending to myself) at kailangang-kailangan ko ng makikinig sa akin who will be there lovingly and patiently listening to my woes. I was so broken and did not know where to begin picking my shredded self off.

                  When you want it the most there's no easy way out

        When you're ready to go and your heart's left in doubt

        Don't give up on your Faith, 

        Love comes to those who believe it

        And that's the way it is.

Fast forward kasi i am not there anymore naman na. And so it is, i focused on studying, researching again about human nature, its dynamics, intricacies/complexities, and however they are called, para lang maintindihan ko ang sa tingin ko ay sobrang mga mahahalaga'ng bagay-bagay for my peace of mind (kasama na siempre ang healing). In short, i stayed in my left brain for the longest time na dumating na rin ako sa puntong hindi na maganda ang political outlook ko, lalo na pag nababalikan ko sa pagninilay ko ang opinyon ni Thomas Harris (may-akda ng libro'ng I'm Okay, U'r Okay) where he stressed that "Democracy is for the intelligent electorate."

The good thing about teaching and coaching is that, the learning goes both ways, na parang pagmamahalan lang na two-way street nga daw, na totoo naman. Having begun my psycho-kinesiology practice in 2013, marami na rin ang nagbago both sa akin at sa mga pananaw ko. This led me lately to veer away from the political aspects of practically everything. W/Man's greed for power leads him/her nowhere, at wala rin namang magagawa ang sinuman maliban sa sarili so, bakit pa? "You can bring a horse in a river, but you cannot make it drink."

I went back into accepting the thought that i am probably made to understand about what i was interested the most because my focus would be human relations. Honestly, i was most excited about this thought. Bakit? Kasi only love makes the world go round. The various stories that make up for the successes and failures of loving (however way it is translated) is most fascinating, don't you think? Well, unless ipokrito o ipokrita ka, op kors. Pag ganoon ka, hala ka, tanungin mo na ang sarili mo kung tao ka pa ba? hehehe joke lang po..✌

In today's topic i would like to delve into the most intriguing and super duper kilig love story of KimPau. No, it is not because Paulo's roots are from Calbayog, but it's his depth that caught my interest. He is a cousin to a very beautiful lady who i consider to be "almost my daughter" and whose depth is quite the same as his (Paulo's), that is why she is also very misunderstood - typical of old souls anyways. 

Well, because both Kim Chiu and Paulo Avelino are popular stars, especially these days, hindi ko na kailangang ulitin pa how he manifested his love for Kim. He waited so long na kung hindi ganon kalakas ang paniniwala (Faith) ay matagal na sanang bumitaw. The traits of introverted people are just so exemplary that their gauge must be their inner knowing - that powerful thing called intuition which says na alam mo. Na hindi mo naman alam pero deep inside alam mong alam mo. Whew, hirap ipaliwanag. Ang makakaintindi lang yata ay 'yong mga makaka-relate because been there na. 

As for Kim, oh, wow, this girl is not really just a girl. She is a super girl, but really a quintessential woman. Babae ako'ng may edad na, pero saludo'ng-saludo ako sa kanya that despite her being young, who has been through a lot as well, pero talagang napangalagaan ang sarili n'yang pagka-babae. This is, for me, the main reason why she stands out as the inspiration for young women in this day and age of a rather loose morality among the young and old alike. Sorry again..✌✌

                    When you question me for a simple answer

        I don't know what to say, NO.

        But it's plain to see if you stick together,

        you're gonna find a way, yeah

        So, don't surrender 'cause you can win

        in this thing called LOVE.

Sa paghahanap mo sa sarili mo, huwag ka lang talaga sanang mawawala. You must be intact come hell or high water, lalo na ang brain and heart coherence mo. Panatilihin palagi ang pagmamasid sa sarili, as conscious awareness of the self is very important.

Thing is, there is only one (1) secret in finding true love - the kind that lasts a lifetime - which is not really, in a sense, a secret. It only became a secret because precisely it was not explained nor understood clearly. It is why Kim Chiu is loved by the most coveted bachelors and the target of envy of less attractive ladies despite their pretty faces and sexy bods. 

Yup, love conquers all. The Universal Law of Attraction clearly shows that you attract who or what you are. Kim and Paulo's common denominator is that. Their friendship is a big plus factor, kasi ang buhay ay hindi lang naman puro kilig. There is also a so-called practicality that is attached to a balanced life and meaningful living. We are very naturally dichotomous beings na nasasakop ng tinatawag na Universal Law of Polarity. So then, the big question you have to ask yourself if you are in search of love and loving is, am i love? But your guide to knowing if you are love is, am i a loving person? And the first and biggest manifestation for that is self respect. "Kindness is for the strong." When you respect your own self, you'll respect others. 

The prerequisite to falling in love then, is to be love yourself. Dahil sa kadahilanang pagmamahal ka, normal lang na mahalin ka, kasi kamahal-mahal palagi ang pagmamahal, di nga ba? Well, sa mga may nakakubkub na hindi magandang espiritu, kasuklam-suklam ka, siempre. But that is part of being alive that one must accept, appreciate or endure. Pero makakayanan mo ang lahat dahil kampante kang mayroong nand'yan at pinuprotektahan ka. "If God is within or for  me, who can be against me?" God is love and therefore, you are.

If you are not yet love, pasensyahan po, pero pagdaraanan mo muna ang mga dapat mo talagang pagdaanan, no matter the pain. Wala po kasing painless process na tinatawag. Dapat cleared ka muna o bayad sa mga pagkakamali mong nagawa sa kapwa mo. This is where the need for solitude or isolation comes in. "We pay for everything as only the grace of God is free." (True Grit) 

When you are done with your clearing job, the grace of God becomes your clearance to become love. At malalaman mo 'yan sa puso mo. Your direct line to God is your heart because your heart is the seat of your soul. And then the road to ultimate joy begins. Kaya sabi ni Paulo: wala sa edad 'yan. 

There will be flood/s of tears na aagos muna, hiningang parang mapupugto, at puso'ng parang mabibiyak, dahil lahat ng ipinaranas mo sa kapwa mo ay babalik sa 'yo dahil tayo ay iisa (know the Universal Law of Oneness). Nasa sa 'yo na lang kung kakayanin mo o hindi muna. Walang mangingialam sa desisyon mo dahil buhay mo naman 'yan, at hindi sa iba. Uulitin ko na naman po ang kasabihang "buntot mo, hila mo" sa puntong ito dahil marami talaga ang matitigas na nga ang ulo, broken pa ang puso.💔

              When life is empty, with no tomorrow

      And loneliness starts to call

      Baby, don't worry, forget your sorrow

      'cause Love's gonna conquer it all.

      ALL."

May pag-asa. Kapit lang, kaibigan.💗

Until then, my most revered friends! Sana makatulong ito sa inyong pagninilay. Kasihan nawa tayong lahat ng Maykapal.🙏