IS THERE TRULY JUSTICE IN LEGALIZING DIVORCE?

Maingay ulit ang dalawang kampo, kaya nagpasya akong uriratin ang bagay na ito. But let me make it clear first that this is how i personally see/evaluate things involving this controversy. I come with no intention to affect anybody's opinion.

My young friend, of substance, sent me a private massage regarding this matter as we used to talk this way as officemates then. Magka-ututang-dila kami, despite our age difference, kasi sa mga bagay-bagay na gusto naming intindihin sa medyo malalimang pananaw o perspektibo. But this one got me into thinking deep that i need to google ano nga ba ang diperensya ng dalawa (annulment at divorce) talaga. 

The following are Google's respective definitions for each:

Very simply, "a divorce ends a legal marriage and declares the spouses to be single again."; while

"an annulment is a ruling that erases a marriage by declaring the marriage null and void and that the union was never legally valid." Record-wise the marriage remain. There seemingly is a tinge of complication in the latter, isn't it?

In the grand tapestry of our unique landscape, marami nga ang papabor sa unang tingin nila sa diborsyo dahil normal na normal sa tao ang gustuhin at piliin ang madaliang pamamaraan para makalabas sa kung anumang hindi kagandahang sitwasyon na kanilang kinalalagyan. A human being is very naturally impatient. Gusto n'ya palagi ng instant gratification, 'yong tipong "i want this, and i want this NOW!"

S/he does not believe that "great things take time." that therefore, there is something wrong in his/her belief system. Mayubay ang kanyang pananampalataya, hindi nakaangkla sa nakasaad sa libro at bersikulo Jeremiah 29:11. 

"Broken women know how to love,

but not who to love;

broken men know who to love,

but not how to love."

The government is prone to side with the ephemerality of life and of the world kaya ang tutok nila ay nasa pang-ibabaw na kaanyuan ng mga pangyayari lamang, kaya normal din para sa kanila ang solusyunan ang mga bagay sa pinakamadaling pamamaraan. While the church goes a lot deeper than what is normally seen on the outside because it is concerned with faith; with belief. Kaya matagal at madugo muna ang pinagdadaraanan sa annulment process nito kasi both of the couple are given the benefit of the doubt, as members of one body of Christ. 

I honestly think that the church is greatly concerned with what happens next after the divorce law is passed, as humans are prone to abuse also. Pag inabuso/naabuso yan, ang daming mga bata ang apektado sigurado. At mahihirapan tayong kayanin pa 'yan. 

We are witnesses to multitudes of suicides committed by the young in the recent past. The main reason is usually love na buong akala lang natin ay out of romanticism kasi mababaw nga lang ang pagtingin at intindi natin. Pero kung alam natin at intindi ang tinatawag na human dynamics alam nating ang kawalan ng totoong pagmamahal sa sarili ang dahilan ng lahat. 

The church is concerned with the family structure as a basic unit because true love begins in there. Kung patuloy lang na sisirain ang pamilya, rather than be given salient interventions to improve it, i wonder how many folds will be added sa mga sira na ngayon pa lang? To even think about the numbers gives me shivers.

In one of the sermons at a wedding, an officiating priest reminded of the newly-weds to be particular of how they, as a couple, bear with one another so that their resulting children will not be broken as it is very difficult to heal that sometimes they do not heal at all.

Generally, people are good at hiding how they are doing. Sometimes for fear of what might be said against them, na lalong pinabibigat kung hindi nila alam papaano ito sasabihin. Most of us are ashamed to show our vulnerability, so we keep living on seemingly agreeable facades. Life's been mostly a bitch for us. We grew up not knowing how to deal with them. 

Unconsciously caught up by romanticism, people tie the knot, marry with eyes closed and enjoy the party. It's what mostly happens. Not with everybody, but very surely with the many. For how long the marriage stays only the two of them can guess. 

Love takes time because it does not primarily involve one's three (3) lower energy centers or chakras. Dito muna sa energy centers ang totoong labanan ng bawat tao. Ang tinatawag na alchemical process that refines and purifies us para mabuo ulit tayo. Kaya ipinaalala palagi sa atin na "we are our own enemy." Na wala sa labas ang kaaway. When we commit to a marriage while still broken, we are naturally bound to produce broken children. The vicious cycle is doomed to go on until I don't know when. 

Let me leave you then with the question as my title: "IS THERE TRULY JUSTICE IN LEGALIZING DIVORCE?" because when there is no justice, there is no peace. Promise.

Ciao, everyone.