Love Makes The World Go Round

"Love makes the world go round." This makes February an exciting month for those of us who know love and know how to love passionately. It is always fascinating to observe people in love.. They are those who provide for the numerous exciting and interesting colors in this world.

Love, which is supposed to be a symbiotic relationship however, through the passage of time has changed dramatically. Where before it was shared with passion, endurance, and sacrifice, now it is quite translated as purely a rewarding relationship. "I'm sorry, I am not happy with you anymore!" whether blatantly spoken or behaviorally acted out would seem to be the cause for separation, physically or otherwise. We have become very feeling people and are becoming more and more. This loss of balance is eating us up very rapidly and can cause the world's rot.

Love actually is transcendental. Sad, but we can never find love if we maintain our focus outside of ourselves. The thought of finding love from other people, be it from our own family or outside of it, drives us to woe people endlessly by being or constantly playing nice to them even if sometimes we do not want to. In our youth this practice might have been okay but as we grow older we will come to realize the varieties of pain that accompany this thought. And this pain will lead us to our own destruction.

Love begins with character-formation. Character-formation is begun with the simplest decision/choice that we make practically each day. There are basically only two (2) main life choices: social ethics; or character ethics. Social ethics is geared towards pleasing people; while character ethics is towards pleasing God. We fail to recognize often that by pleasing God alone we please people in return. That character ethics is the foundational basis for social ethics. Isn't it just ironic when we hear ourselves sigh in frustration, "we cannot really please everybody"?

Love is, loving yourself first. "We cannot give what we do not have" clearly illustrates the futility of our efforts to love others to get back love as ROI (Return on Investment). You have got to invest on your self first. The main focus must be directed on you first and foremost. You cannot enjoy your flowers if you planted and tended them in another's garden. You have to plant and take care of them to truly enjoy the flowers in your own garden.

Go back to the memories of your childhood, as far back as you can no matter the pain, and you will discover the answers to your web of plaguing questions that contributed to your confusion and caused you deep anguish. But most importantly seek God's help to help you out because everything in this world is in His grace and mercy. He is the greatest Physician. Kaya nga "nasa Diyos ang awa, nasa tao ang gawa". Without our submission and willingness, every effort taken is wasted.

i am always overwhelmed with joy every time i say the third Glorious mystery, the Descent of the Holy Spirit upon the Apostles, because it reminds me of God's promise to be in each and every one of us. We all are His apostles. But we turn our backs on Him. In His goodness we give Him never-ending suffering by being stubborn children. He is inside the heart of each and every one of us but we choose to forget and forsake Him. Unloving your self is by far the greatest pain that you give God. Think about that. Reflect.

In closing i share with one of my most loved reflections way back: "We were created by God with a heart at the very core of our being but we often deal with ourselves and others without it."

Happy Heart's month, dearly beloved friends! God bless...